Forgiving God: The Step Most People Skip

It’s the step few life coaching clients talk about.
The one that makes you feel guilty for even thinking it.
The one that hides under all your prayers, faith, and “I’m fine.”
It’s forgiving God.

Before you close this page, let’s be clear: God doesn’t do anything wrong. He’s holy, perfect, good, and just. He doesn’t need forgiveness—but you need freedom.

As a spiritual life coach and Freedom Coach, I’ve seen so many hearts healed once they let go of the silent blame they’ve carried toward God. Because while He doesn’t need your forgiveness, you need to release the anger, resentment, and grief that turned into disappointment.

Until you do, your heart will stay stuck—believing but not trusting; praying but not connecting; loving God but keeping Him at arm’s length.

When the Hurt Comes From Heaven

There’s a moment in every believer’s journey when the unthinkable happens—when the God you trusted allows something that shatters you.

The diagnosis.
The betrayal.
The death.
The silence.

You may never say it out loud, but deep down, you whisper:
“Why didn’t You stop it?”
“Why weren’t You there?”
“Why didn’t You heal them?”

As a Christian life coach, I’ve heard those whispers too.

Years ago, I poured everything I had—time, energy, prayer—into a ministry business I believed God wanted me to build. I prayed, planned, and pursued the dream like a purpose and clarity coach chasing divine direction. I believed that because it was for God, He would bless it.

But it failed.

When it did, I didn’t just lose money—I lost faith. I remember sitting in my office, staring at unpaid bills and broken dreams. I whispered, “God, I don’t understand. I did this for You.”

I wasn’t doubting His existence; I was questioning His heart. Why would a good Father allow something meant for good to fall apart?

That’s where resentment begins. It’s not disbelief—it’s disappointment wearing faith’s mask.

You keep showing up at church, saying, “God is good,” while deep down your heart whispers, “God, You hurt me.”

Perspective: You can’t fully trust the One you secretly blame.

The Hidden Weight We Carry

Unforgiveness is like trying to run with a chain around your ankle. You can move—but never far. You can worship—but never free.

The hardest form of unforgiveness to admit is the kind directed at God. We know He’s perfect, so we bury it. But buried emotions don’t die—they multiply. They grow into distance and spiritual apathy.

You can’t heal from a hurt you refuse to name.

As a personal development coach, I often remind clients: healing begins with honesty. If you’ve been quietly angry at God, this is your permission to be real—not because He’s guilty, but because you’re tired of carrying the weight.

Perspective: Forgiving God isn’t declaring Him wrong—it’s declaring your heart ready to heal.

The Moment I Said It Out Loud

When I was walking through my own story, I thought I had forgiven everyone—parents, friends, even myself.

But my counselor asked, “Have you forgiven God?”
I laughed. “He’s perfect. Why would I?”
And she said, “You don’t forgive Him for His sake—you do it for yours.”

That night, I whispered, “God, I forgive You for what I don’t understand.”

And something broke—not in anger, but in release. I felt lighter.

Freedom doesn’t come from understanding God’s decisions—it comes from surrendering your right to resent them.

God Can Handle Your Honesty

If you’ve been afraid to tell God how you really feel, don’t be. He already knows. He’s not offended by your questions. He prefers honesty over performance.

When you bring Him your pain—raw and unfiltered—He doesn’t retreat. He leans in.

Perspective: You’ll never scare God with your honesty, but you’ll starve your soul with your silence.

What Forgiving God Looks Like

Forgiving God means you stop holding Him emotionally hostage for what He allowed. You stop replaying the questions and start trusting His heart.

Forgiveness is not a one-time event; it’s a process. Each time you say, “Lord, I forgive You,” your heart softens.

Perspective: Forgiveness doesn’t erase your story—it rewrites its ending.

The Healing That Follows

When you forgive God, something shifts. You start hearing His voice again. You stop performing and start connecting.

He was never far—He was weeping with you all along.

That’s why this step matters. Without it, even believers stay stuck between faith and frustration—close enough to believe, but too wounded to trust.

The Freedom on the Other Side

When you finally release your resentment, your faith deepens. You stop fearing His will and start trusting His wisdom.

That’s where freedom lives—the kind of healing life coaching was meant to nurture.

Perspective: You can’t worship fully while holding a grudge against the One you worship.

Wanting What God Wants

God doesn’t need your forgiveness. He wants your freedom.
He wants an intimate, personal relationship where resentment can’t hide.

So today, maybe your next step isn’t reading another book—it’s whispering, “God, I forgive You.”

You may still hurt, but that’s where healing life coaching begins.

If you’re struggling to take that step, don’t do it alone.
Visit WalkerJames.Life  and schedule a session through Healing MY Story.
Let’s walk together toward peace, purpose, and freedom.

Because forgiveness doesn’t change the past—it changes you.