Freedom Starts with

Facing what Hurts!

Real healing begins when you stop hiding and start walking—with Jesus at the center.

🪶 The Core of the Healing MY Story Process

If you've ever wondered if healing is possible—for you, your story, your marriage, your family, your faith—you're not alone. Many people show up not knowing where to begin or whether this will even work. Healing MY Story is the process I walk clients through, step by step, as we uncover what hurts and give it to the only One who can truly heal: Jesus.

You don’t have to keep carrying the weight of your past. Healing begins the moment you stop running from what broke you and start walking—honestly, gently, and courageously—toward the God who heals you. Healing MY Story is your invitation to do just that… one step at a time, with someone who gets it, and with Jesus at the center of it all.

This isn’t a program you complete—it’s a sacred journey you begin. A journey of facing what hurts, uncovering what’s hidden, and letting God meet you right there in the mess, in the middle of the broken pieces. Together, we create a safe space for you to process your pain, confront what’s been keeping you stuck, and step into the freedom, transformation, and restoration only Jesus can bring. Every step forward is Spirit-led, personal, and purposeful.

Whether you're struggling to name your pain or already know exactly what’s breaking your heart, this process will meet you where you are and walk with you from there. While no two healing journeys look the same, these are the key tools and practices we’ll walk through together:

🔍 Brokenness Assessment

Before healing begins, we ask God to help us see what needs healing.

Every story carries pain. Every heart has wounds—some buried, some raw, and some so familiar they feel normal. The Brokenness Assessment is a private, confidential online form designed to gently uncover those potentially wounded places so we can begin the healing process with clarity, compassion, and care.

You won’t need to write out your entire life story here. This isn’t about putting your trauma on display—it’s about giving me a way to understand the landscape of your heart: the struggles you’ve faced, the losses you’ve carried, the heartaches that still echo, and the patterns that keep repeating. You’ll simply check boxes that reflect what you’ve experienced or are still wrestling with. That’s it.

But this step is incredibly important for both of us.

For you, it’s a way to pause and reflect—sometimes for the first time—on what’s really going on beneath the surface. It shines a light on areas where God wants to bring healing, restoration, and truth.

For me, it’s a way to pray more specifically, listen more intentionally, and tailor our conversations in a way that honors what you’ve been through. There are times when certain patterns, experiences, or strongholds point to deeper spiritual issues—things that may need to be addressed through spiritual deliverance or intentional inner healing work. I won’t overwhelm you with that language upfront, but I’ll be watching for those signs as I review your responses with prayer and discernment.

This isn’t about labeling you—it’s about understanding how to walk with you. Everyone’s story is different. Everyone’s healing path is personal. And this assessment helps us begin yours with wisdom, sensitivity, and Jesus at the center.

You are safe here. You don’t have to carry this alone anymore.

🧨 Forgiveness

This isn’t about pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s about choosing not to let it hold you prisoner anymore.

Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood—and most powerful—parts of healing. It doesn’t mean saying what happened was okay. It doesn’t mean excusing the wrong, forgetting the pain, or allowing someone back into your life who caused harm.

What it does mean is this: you’re making the courageous decision to stop carrying the burden of it all.

You’ve likely been holding onto a wound—maybe for years. And it’s not because you’re weak. It’s because the pain was real. The betrayal was deep. The loss was unbearable. Forgiveness can feel impossible when you’ve been the one hurt, mistreated, abandoned, or abused. That’s why we don’t rush this part. We don’t force it. We walk into it with truth, tenderness, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

Through a short but powerful video, you’ll learn what forgiveness really is—and what it’s not. You’ll gain clarity on why forgiveness is essential for your healing, even if the other person never apologizes or changes. Then, as a reflective exercise, you’ll be invited to write a forgiveness piece connected to your story. This isn’t about performance or perfection. It’s about positioning your heart to begin letting go. 

One of the biggest things we need to understand about forgiveness is this: it’s for you—not for them.

Jesus doesn’t ask us to forgive so others can feel better. He asks us to forgive because He knows what anger, bitterness, hatred, and resentment will do to our souls. It's a command, not a request. Why? Because they are spiritual toxins—poison that contaminates our peace, our joy, our relationships, and even our sense of identity.

Forgiveness is the only way to take out the trash and clean our hearts.

It’s not weakness—it’s spiritual strength. It’s not forgetting—it’s choosing to free ourselves from the burden of carrying all of that anger, bitterness, hatred, and resentment.

Even if you don’t feel fully ready, taking this step—however small—as it begins to unhook your soul from the grip of that story, that person, that pain. It’s like breaking a chain you didn’t even realize was still wrapped around you.

And here’s the truth that brings hope: Jesus is not asking you to do this alone. He is your strength. He’s already forgiven you more than you’ll ever be asked to forgive others. And He will walk with you through every word, every tear, every act of surrender.

This is where the healing process takes root.
This is where healing deepens.
This is where freedom starts.
This is where Jesus shows up—in the mess, in the mercy, and in the miracle of letting go.

Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. It prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
—Ephesians 4:31–32 (ESV)

👑 Identity in Christ

You can’t fight for freedom if you don’t know it already belongs to you.

Before we ever talk about spiritual warfare or battling the enemy, we start with something far more important: who you are. Because most of the lies we believe, the chains we carry, and the patterns we can’t break all flow from one central issue—forgotten identity.

You need to know what God says about you. Not what your trauma says. Not what others called you. Not what your past whispers to you in the dark. Not who the World thinks you are. But what He declares:

You are loved, chosen, redeemed, forgiven, called, secure, and sealed in Christ Jesus.

Together, through Scripture, prayer, conversation, and Spirit-led reflection, we’ll begin to rebuild this foundation—stone by stone, truth by truth. This is more than positive thinking. It’s about rooting your identity in the unshakable promises of God.

You’ll learn what belongs to you as a child of the King: peace, authority, access, power, belonging, and freedom. These aren’t distant theological ideas. They are your inheritance—your Kingdom birthrights.

Because here’s the truth: you are not just near the Kingdom—you are inside it.

And everything outside of it—devils, demons, and all demonic forces—have no right to speak to you, accuse you, torment you, or touch you.

You are a blood-bought citizen of the Kingdom of God, a child of the Living God, sealed by the Holy Spirit and hidden in Christ.

That’s the kind of authority you carry.
That’s what it means to know who you are.
And that’s why the enemy works so hard to make you forget.

As your guide, this part of the process helps me see how deeply those truths have (or haven’t) taken root in your life. Because spiritual warfare is real—and if you don’t know who you are in Christ, you’ll fight from fear instead of from victory.

We’re not rushing into battle. We’re reestablishing your position.
Because freedom begins not with a fight—but with identity.

This isn’t just a lesson—it’s a declaration. A turning point.
You are not who your pain says you are.
You are who Jesus says you are.
And no one—not even the enemy—gets to rewrite that.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. —2 Corinthians 5:17 (ESV)

I am not what was done to me.
I am not what I’ve done.
I am who He says I am—
Loved. Chosen. Redeemed. Secure.
I am inside the Kingdom of God,
And everything outside of it has no power over me.
In Christ, I belong—and I am free, because He loved me enough to set me free!

🙏 Deliverance (If Needed)

There’s no shame in this. Just freedom. Deep, holy, life-changing freedom.

Sometimes the pain we carry runs so deep that it opens the door to spiritual oppression. Sometimes, the wounds, the lies, the trauma, the repeated sin, or even generational strongholds create space where the enemy tries to claim territory in our hearts, minds, or bodies. When that happens, no amount of willpower, therapy, or good intentions can break it. But Jesus can.

If we prayerfully discern that this kind of spiritual interference is present—whether through heaviness, torment, confusion, addiction, fear, compulsions, or anything that just won’t let go—we’ll gently walk through a Spirit-led process of deliverance together.

This is not weird. It’s not loud. And it’s not scary.
It’s biblical. It’s beautiful. It’s powerful.
And it’s all done in the name and authority of Jesus Christ.

Deliverance simply means handing over what doesn’t belong to you anymore—the bondage, the lies, the attachments, the torment—and letting Jesus take it from you completely.

We walk through renouncing what’s not of God, breaking spiritual agreements, and inviting the Holy Spirit to fill every place that had once been held in darkness. It’s not a ritual. It’s a rescue.

This is one of the most sacred, humbling, and holy parts of the healing journey. There’s no shame in needing deliverance—many of us do, and most people never even realize it. But when it happens, it’s like watching God restore your broken heart in a single act of mercy.

You feel lighter. Clearer. Restored. Transformed. Free. 

Chains fall. Fog lifts. The lies go quiet. And your spirit finally breathes.

As your guide, I will never force this step. I will never shame you for needing it. And I will never walk you into something unprepared. If we sense deliverance is needed, we’ll talk through what to expect, how to prepare, and walk every step prayerfully, gently, and under the covering of Jesus’ name and blood.

Deliverance is not the end of your story.

The chains are gone. I’ve been set free.
Not by my power, but by His mercy.
Jesus stepped in—and the darkness fled.
Now my story has meaning, now my real story begins.